You need to be SELFISH with your energy right now. THEY ARE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOUR KINDNESS

Helping others is a good thing, but it shouldn’t come at the cost of being used. It’s okay to be kind, but it’s also important to recognize when someone only sees you as a resource, rather than a real friend. Pay attention to who truly appreciates you and who just keeps coming back for favors. Protect your energy and give your kindness to those who respect and cherish it. They only remember you when life gets tough again. They come back, pleading, acting as if you’re the only one who understands. And because you’re generous, you help again.

But where is their support when you need it? Where is their kindness when you’re the one struggling? If you create something, do they stand by you? If you chase your dreams, do they cheer you on? When you’re working hard, reaching milestones, or sharing your success, some people are nowhere to be found. They don’t comment, they don’t congratulate you, and they don’t acknowledge your efforts. You post an achievement online, silence. No words of encouragement, no celebration, not even a simple, well done. It’s as if they don’t see you at all. Think about it.

Where were they when life was good? Where were the kind words, the check-ins, the small gestures that show they care, not even a like on your post? They never ask how you’re doing, never send a message just to say they’re thinking of you. But life has its ups and downs, and sooner or later, challenges come. That’s when they show up, when they’re struggling, when things aren’t going their way. Suddenly, they remember you. Suddenly, you exist again. And maybe you do. Because you have a good heart, because you care. But ask yourself, where were they when you needed support? Where was their kindness when you were building something? Some people only show up when they need something, money, advice, support, or just someone to listen.

But are they truly your friends? Be careful, because if you’re not, you’ll find yourself being used, drained, and left empty. Helping without boundaries encourages this cycle. If someone takes without showing gratitude, they break the natural balance of giving and receiving. Life doesn’t work that way. When appreciation is missing, it disconnects people from the flow of good things. Opportunities, abundance, and even happiness. It’s like cutting the cord to everything that could bring fulfillment. People who never say thank you, who disappear until they need something, who take without giving back in any form, they block their own blessings.

Gratitude isn’t just a nice gesture, it’s a key to growth, connection, and abundance. So recognize who is genuinely there for you, and who only appears when it’s convenient. Your kindness is valuable. Share it with those who respect and appreciate it. Not with those who only take and never give. You don’t need to wear yourself out for people who never show gratitude. They take and take, never thinking to give back. They don’t even realize that by acting this way, they are hurting themselves. Life works in balance. When you only receive without giving, you block your own blessings.

They don’t celebrate your wins. They don’t ask how you’re doing. They don’t send good wishes or encouragement. But when they’re struggling, they come to you, expecting support. Giving is a choice, but at some point you have to ask yourself, how long will you let people take advantage of your kindness? Are these really friends? Don’t let them drain your energy. Don’t let them bring negativity into your life. Set boundaries and walk away from those who take you for granted. Live your life with joy and surround yourself with people who appreciate you. [tr:trw].