Your girlfriend has a guy friend

Jay Dreamers, a YouTuber, discusses the complexities of relationships, particularly the issue of a partner maintaining friendships with their exes. He shares his personal experiences and seeks advice from his viewers, acknowledging that he’s been cheated on in the past. He emphasizes the importance of communication, transparency, and setting boundaries in relationships. He also touches on the challenges of dating as a semi-famous person and the impact of money on relationships.
The speaker discusses his experiences with relationships, highlighting his struggles with understanding the opposite sex and the complexities of dating. He emphasizes the importance of communication, honesty, and mutual respect in a relationship. He also shares his personal preference for establishing a friendship before moving into a romantic relationship. The speaker also touches on his work, hinting that it might be intense for a partner due to his passion for it.
The speaker discusses the challenges of life and relationships, comparing them to a parasite that takes over the mind. Despite the difficulties, they believe that these experiences can make us stronger. They also discuss the changing world, including the weather and the idea of the world going through a cleansing. The speaker encourages focusing on the positive aspects of life and letting go of things that bring you down.
A man named Flat Man B calls into a show and has a conversation with the host. They discuss their differing beliefs, but agree that it’s healthy to not always agree. Flat Man B shares his struggles with relationships and the host empathizes, sharing his own experiences. They encourage each other to keep going despite their challenges.
The speaker discusses the importance of learning from mistakes and being open to change. He also talks about the challenges men face in adapting to societal changes and expectations, which can lead to paranoia and stagnation. He appreciates the support from his community and encourages more open discussions. He ends by expressing gratitude for his audience and suggesting future call-in shows.
The text discusses the complexities of maintaining friendships with the opposite sex while in a relationship. The author shares personal experiences and opinions, suggesting that such friendships often lead to romantic feelings, which can complicate relationships. They also emphasize the importance of honesty and communication in a relationship, particularly when it comes to these friendships. The author encourages testing the boundaries of these friendships to understand their true nature.
The speaker shares his experiences of being repeatedly cheated on in relationships. He talks about his first love who cheated on him, leading him to move to Colorado. Despite giving her another chance, she cheated again, causing him great emotional distress. He also mentions a more recent relationship where his girlfriend was constantly spending time with a male friend, raising suspicions of infidelity.
The speaker shares his experience with a past relationship where he felt his partner was getting too close to a male friend. Despite his discomfort, his concerns were dismissed by his partner. After going through her phone, he found evidence of her flirting with this friend, leading to their breakup. He then talks about a new relationship he’s started, expressing his hope for a more honest and committed partnership.
The narrator was excited about a new relationship, but things got complicated when his partner saw a picture of his ex on Facebook. Misunderstandings and miscommunications followed, including her hinting at past relationships. Despite these issues, they continued to see each other. However, when she went to a concert without inviting him and avoided his questions about who she was going with, he became worried she might be seeing someone else.
The speaker suspects his partner might be meeting someone else at a concert. He tries to get her to admit it by pretending he’s okay with it. She admits to meeting two male friends, one of whom she had a brief relationship with. The speaker feels hurt and confused, and their argument leads to her cutting her trip short. She later admits she was having doubts about their relationship.
The speaker is expressing feelings of betrayal and heartbreak after a romantic interest met up with a past fling. He questions whether his reaction is justified or if he’s overreacting. He also discusses the challenges of being a public figure on YouTube, with his romantic interest making assumptions about his lifestyle. Lastly, he talks about the importance of viewer donations in supporting his work and personal life.
The speaker discusses his experiences with dating, his decision to return a donation from a subscriber he had a disagreement with, and his choice to monetize his channel. He also talks about his struggle with heartbreak and his decision to become more reclusive, focusing on his work and passion for discussing topics like the plasma apocalypse, ancient oblivion, hidden history, and fringe theories. He ends by opening up the phone lines for his listeners to share their experiences and advice.
The speaker discusses the negative impact of social media on personal relationships and societal values. They believe that social media encourages jealousy, breaks down the family unit, and promotes immorality. They also express concern about the influence of social media on younger generations and the importance of teaching them real history and values. The speaker suggests that these issues are part of a larger plan by world leaders to divide and control society.

Aloha. What’s up everyone and welcome to today’s presentation. I’m Jay Dreamers and welcome to my channel. Today’s presentation is going to be a little different. Normally I talk about conspiracies and fringe theories and you know, alternative ideas and philosophy and stuff. But normal everyday life happens to us all. And I thought I would do something a little different. Today we’re going to talk about relationships. Okay? So the, the subject of today and the question really is when is it okay? And is it okay for your significant other, your serious girlfriend or boyfriend to be friends with an ex fling or an ex partner or an ex of some kind? Is that okay? When is that okay? And it, it’s happened to me many times.

If, how many of you guys have ever been cheated on either physically, emotionally or, or otherwise, let me know in the chat. Put a one, put a one. If you’ve ever been cheated on. And it doesn’t have to be physical, it can just be, you know, your, your trust was broken or emotional cheating or things like that. That’s really what we’re going to be talking about. I am biased. So I’ll say that from the start. I will be, I’m going to the first 20 minutes of today’s presentation. I’m going to be in the chat and I’ll be reading your comments.

If you Type in at JDreamers, you’ll highlight in the chat and I’ll be able to pull up your comment and put it on screen and we can talk about it after the first 20 minutes. I’ll share my story with you. And my story goes all the way back. And someone asked in the chat, do I need some advice? I, I do. That’s why I’m doing this. I’m actually, I’m doing this because it’s therapeutic for me. Many of you guys know I’m reclusive. I don’t get out a lot. You know, I probably should but people scare me.

People freak me out. People are weird these days and they don’t, they don’t have the, the good old fashioned values out there in the world that where I come from that I resonate with. I do see a lot, I see a lot of ones in the chat. There’s a bunch of ones. Chef Dave has like five ones in there. Yeah, I probably need at least five, at least five ones. So I’ll share my story with you guys in a bit. Hold on, my light turned off. I’ll share my story after, after we’re done talking in the chat.

But here’s the question. The question is, has that ever happened to you? How did you deal with it? Is it, you know, should you just break it off immediately and just say that’s not acceptable? To some people it is. And I know it comes down to preferences. You know, some people are fine. There’s people out there that share their boyfriends and girlfriends and husbands and wives and they’re polyamorous and all that stuff. I’m coming from a straight single guy perspective, personally, myself, you know, I. I don’t know what you guys are or in any of that kind of stuff, but I’m just wondering, what is your advice? You know, if you’re, if you’re really into somebody, if you’re dating them seriously and, you know, there’s like the expectation, you guys been seeing each other for a while and you find out they have, you know, a friend of the opposite sex, and that friend is someone that they used to be with intimately, either for a long time or just briefly.

And does it matter if it’s brief, if their relationship was brief and a long time ago or recent? Those are the questions I’m asking because I’m no expert. I’m not an expert, trust me. So I don’t really talk about these kinds of things, you know, and I want to be fair to myself too. So this is self talk. This is advice for me, but also for viewers. I know a lot of people struggle with relationships and we can also talk about being a truther, right? Somebody that might be weird to the rest of the world, you know, somebody that might have different kinds of values or, you know, people who are conspiracy theorists or whatever, like, how does that affect your relationships? You know, is it easy? Is it difficult? You know, do you want to find somebody that shares your values and stuff? All those topics and more.

I’m not going to be getting personal. AMA asks who hurt me. That’s not. I’m not really going to get personal. I’m not going to give out names or, you know, dime anybody out or anything like that. That’s not really the point of the presentation. But it’s been many people. I’ve been hurt my entire life since I started dating, and I’ve been cheated on probably every single time. I’d say, if I’m being honest, 90% of the time, you know, whenever I found someone I liked and tried to be serious with them, it’s. But I’ll share those stories with you guys here in a bit.

I do see dreamers in the chat from Eddie Lee Schrock. Who says J dreamers. My ex wife fell in love with you. Oh snap. Damn. Sorry about that. Oh, that’s another thing too is like, well, I’ll, I’ll get to that. I’ll get to being a YouTuber and my dating life. I’ll share that with you guys. You know, my, you might be curious. Who knows, I don’t know. But I’ll share my feelings about my, my dating life and what’s it like, you know, being like semi famous and all that stuff in the dating world. Let’s see. Alicia Carmichael.

Carmena says I announced. Oh, she says one for being cheated on. I announced the wedding I never had. It was half paid for. Yikes. That sucks. Especially whenever money starts getting involved, you know, and people are giving you money or you’re giving them money or borrowing or lending or whatever, that can get tough. You know what I mean? I’ve actually also experienced that recently. Let’s see. Zenith Athelon says I’ve been hurt and recently tbf. That sucks. I’m sorry. It’s. It’s, it’s tough, right? It’s tough. Like in this day and age, people don’t teach us these things.

You know, we don’t learn how to be in a healthy relationship. When we’re going to school, there’s no class. Like there should be a class. But we get it from the world around us, from reality TV and our parents or you know, watching mom with the boyfriend or dad with the girlfriend or whatever. And so we learn a lot just trying to, trying to get by as we grow up. Let’s see. Eddie says my ex is a Jezebel that reminds me of Boys to Men. They have a song called Jezebel. Actually I’ll probably rock out to that later.

Let’s see. Thorman Tom says it’s super hard, right? It is super hard these days just, just trying to have an actual relationship. Know, good old fashioned boy meets girl, holding hands. You know, nowadays there’s all these weird expectations and oh, I cut myself shaving. If you guys are wondering what that is. Just blood from a cut. Let’s see, let’s see. Oh, metal man Dan says I wouldn’t go back to an ex. Once bitten, twice shy. Well said, well said. I am looking for AT J or Dreamers. If you type in AT J Dreamers, it will highlight here on my side.

Ama N, says Jay. Not romantically, but my dad was a cheater and broke. It broke my heart to see her dad cheating. That’s a bummer. I’M sorry. Let’s see. Oh, here we go. El loves Yahusha, says if you’re in a relationship and that person has a friendship with an ex, talk to them about it. Transparency with the phones and social media is a must. Put up boundaries. I. That’s well said. I think that’s well said. That’s good advice. Actually. Communication is, is crucial for me at least. I mean, like, I’m, I’m a. I’m an information person.

And I tell this to, like, you know, girls that I’ve dated that I. I like information. I like everything out on the table. Just knowing exactly where everyone stands. You know what I mean? Like, you know, I mean, go with the flow, you know, I mean, be yourself and stuff, but if there’s any weird skeletons in the closet or stuff like that, I’d rather know sooner than later. Personally, I’m not sure how you guys feel. You know, when it’s appropriate, when it come, when it’s the right time to bring it up in conversation, then yeah, it’s.

It’s a good, good idea, you know. Shoot. Let’s see, let’s see. Good to see you guys. Aloha, Matthew. Good to see you. If your girl is. Has got a guy friend they’re not playing patty cake with, just hands, my guy says Paul, right? I know. What’s up, Phil, Good to see you. Oh, you got your books. Oh, good. I’m great. I’m. I’m glad. I’m super glad. Yeah. That’s good. I hope it wasn’t too difficult to open the packaging. I do put a lot of tape on there so that nothing happens to it. Clang. Clanglitch says money drives a wedge between relationships.

Yeah, I know, right? The person I was recently dating actually, like, donated money to me, and I didn’t even know that that was them. And then it became a big deal, and then so I just gave it back to them. Phil, 1476 says Jermers. Which book would you recommend to read first? Oh, for my books, I recommend the plasma Apocalypse. Just start there. Definitely. Bible book club says J. Dreamers. You might just be too nice or kind of a guy that can be taken advantage of. I mean, it’s obviously going to depend on who you ask.

You know, I’ve had my feelings hurt and I’ve said mean things to people. You know, I’m not perfect or anything. And it’s easy to, like, say things you don’t mean when you’re. When your heart is broken. But I do like to think that I Am generally a nice guy, you know, And I remember when I was in high school, like I would see the prettiest, cutest girls with the worst guys. Just the just worst, terrible guys. And I’m just like, man, how’s, how does that work? I, I never understood it when I was, I was a virgin until I was.

Oh, this is not for children, by the way. So please don’t let your children watch this stream. Okay? This, we’re going to be talking about grown up stuff. I was a virgin until I was 19. So like, I, I didn’t get any of it. I didn’t understand relationships. Girls were alien to me. I didn’t understand how any of that worked. The first time I asked a girl out, I asked her if she wants to go steady. I thought that’s how you’re supposed to say that. And then she said yes. And I said, okay, cool. And I walked away.

Let’s see. Level plane production says that’s where I come from. Nobody really knows how to be in a relationship. It’s so hard to find someone that thinks the same. For me, once I found someone that, that can just be in a way without restriction. Yes. And just fidelity too. You know what I mean? Like, I mean, obviously, like if you’re on your first couple of dates, like, it’d be weird to say, like, so are we serious? You know, so, you know, and have all these expectations and stuff. But once you establish that, you know, through intimacy and experience and time together, you know, talking and getting to know the person and stuff, then it doesn’t really need to be said.

It’s, you know, it’s, it’s, it’s obvious and it’s evident. It seems to me that it should be at least. Let’s see, we got Jeffrey Horace, who says if the woman likes you more, everything’s going to go your way. If you like her more, you’re going to have to pay and pay and pay. Yep. So being equal, you know what I mean? That’s, that’s always good. Let’s see, we got Lux, who says, I think if she still has male friends, she’s definitely cheating and just using you. Damn that. That has happened to me. I can say that for sure.

Like maybe not recently, but that’s happened in my life. Definitely. Don’t get cucked. Yeah, I’ll. I don’t know. I’ll share my experiences in a bit. Phil 14:76 says J. Dreamers. Yes. It’s quite the struggle to open them at least. Oh, the book, the boxes for My books. Sorry about that. Um, but yeah, just, you know, just being faithful, like at least to someone else’s feelings, you know? Like if you. If you know that the person you’re with has feelings for you and you’ve confessed that you have feelings for them, then maybe like be considerate of those feelings before doing things that you know are going to hurt their feelings.

You know, things that you yourself would not want them to do to you. I mean, Jesus, that sounds pretty simple to me. What’s up, Carmen? Good to see you. Black Sheep says bro. I got the book you recommended by John Bunyan. Oh, right on, sweets. High five. I hope, I hope you’re enjoying it. It’s a good book, Jay. Hang on. Were you a dating subscriber? Oh, was I dating a subscriber? No, no, no. I was not dating a subs. Yeah, I’m not sure how I feel about that. I’m nervous to attempt that. You know what I mean? Like, cuz, you know, I don’t know.

I don’t know. That doesn’t sound like it would be a good idea. You know what I mean? Just maybe not a good idea. What else? Here we go. Glenn Starr says cloning has been possible for a while. We don’t need women. We are doing them to ourselves. For what reason, I’ll never understand. Yeah, well, you know, maybe dating a clone is the way to go. I don’t know. Paul says he invited a chick over to read the Bible with devil horns. High school. You sounds adorable. Thank you. I. I was very innocent growing up. I knew nothing about sex, relationships, drugs, drinking, none of that.

I was. I wasn’t even religious. I wasn’t Mormon or anything like that. I just, I just, you know, I moved around a lot. So I never like, you know, had friends that rubbed off on me or whatever, I guess. Let’s see. Looking for at J. Dreamers. Wayfair was a virgin till he’s 25. Wow. I’ve always wanted to be faithful. Still struggling with getting the. The dating during these times. Dating’s tough, man. You know what I mean? I don’t know. There’s so many preferences that people have and ways that they’re used to and stuff, you know, and F buddies we’ll call that.

You know, like. I don’t know, there’s. There’s so many weird things out there. Like me personally, I just like to go with the flow. I just like, you know, I’m kind of old fashioned. So I like, I like to just be myself and I want to be Friends with somebody. Like, I want to actually, you know, see that we click and we vibe and we’re getting along. And obviously, like, to have a sexual attraction helps to take it to another level, you know, or, you know, to have an attraction there. But. Yeah, I don’t know. I don’t know where I was going with that.

Craig says opposites attract is enough to get you in the sack, but compatibility is key. Yeah, I know. Have you ever said, like, man, I must be attracted to psychos, like, or I just must be attracted to unfaithful people? That’s. I’ve said that a million times. Right. I’m not like, calling anybody out there any names or anything, but, man, when it happens your entire life, my entire life, then I’m like, it’s me, man. Damn it, it’s me. You know, I’m just. I’m just. That’s the kind of person I’m attracted to. I’m just attracted to people who are just, you know, they don’t have the same feelings as I have.

And it’s. And it’s. Sometimes it can be fake on the surface when you first meet each other. You know what I mean? There’s a lot of fronts. There’s a lot of fronts happening where people are just kind of pretending and stuff and not being honest and because, you know, they’re getting along and it’s a good time. But one person might think it’s a short good time and another person might think it’s a, you know, maybe this could be the long run or something. See, if she has a guy friend, tell her to go stay with him and find someone new.

That’s pretty simple, right? I mean, that’s pretty simple. I like that advice. I. I vibe with that. It’s not easy for. For people like me, though. Like, when you’re me, I’m a talker. I want to talk things out. I want answers. I want communication. I want to understand. I want it to make sense. But sometimes it just doesn’t make sense. Sometimes it’s obvious. You know what I mean? And, like, if you catch someone cheating on you, like, the simple thing and the healthy thing, no matter what, even if it’s emotional cheating, like, the right thing to do, obviously, and I’m talking to myself right now, would just be cut ties.

That’s it. You know, they have. They have proven where they stand. Say goodbye, or don’t say goodbye. Just. Just go. But people like me ask why and what’s. What’s going on and what happened and make it make sense to me, you know what I mean? Like just leaving that door open, hoping, you know what I mean? Hoping that I don’t know that it can be salvaged or whatever. Emma says, no offense, but I feel it would be quite intense being in a relationship because you’re so passionate about your work. I am hard to figure out personally.

Like, I’m not easy to figure out and God, I almost never tell people what I do when I first start dating them. Usually I reserve that for, you know, until I feel like there’s a connection. And I’ve been seeing someone for a while, you know, because I want them to get to know me apart from this world. Let’s see, let’s see. We got Trish. Trish says rare friendship. I’m almost 39 and I’ve had the same two guy friends since we were 16. To this day, we are all three in a group chat. Incredible spiritual life advice shared.

My boyfriend is aware and knows them. Right on. Like I said, it all depends on the situation. Like if you’ve been friends since high school with some guys or whatever, that might be different. Then, you know, you were seeing somebody a few months back, went out on a couple of dates and that was it. But you want to like keep them as friends or whatever. That’s, that’s a lot different than your, your high school friends for life or something like that. But yeah, it’s the whole, the whole having, having like if your girlfriend or has a guy friend or if your guy friend has girlfriends or whatever and they’re going out on dates, that’s.

I’m just gonna speak for myself. That’s inappropriate. They’re like meeting up at bars and going to movies or, you know, whatever the case may be. My old fashioned heart is like, yikes, that’s inappropriate. You know what I mean? But like I said, it all depends on the situation. But in general, I did a lot of research after because this happened to me recently basically, and man, I researched for like four hours. I wanted to make sure I wasn’t going crazy. I wanted to make sure I wasn’t just some jealous boyfriend that was, you know, not being understanding or whatever.

So I looked it up in a million different places and the general consensus was usually in general, girls can’t have guy friends because the guy friend is into them almost always, that the guy friend is always into the girl and they’re just waiting. They’re just, they’re content to be in this little friend zone until the time to pounce. And that’s. That’s the. That’s what I read and heard and watched and stuff for four hours. The same story over and over again. And it’s probably true the other way around. I’m just speaking from a male perspective, you know what I mean? But like, me, like, if I’m on dating apps and stuff and I, like, have met a couple of girls over the years or whatever and it didn’t work out, I’m deleting them.

That’s it. That’s. That’s me. Like, if. If it didn’t work out as a relationship, then, you know, I’m not going to, like, keep them around as Facebook friends or buddies and not. And, and especially not telling your partner about it and just kind of keeping that, like a little secret off to the side. I. I can’t do that. Let’s see. All right, I’m looking for j dreamers in the chat. If you guys have. If you guys want to chime in, you can. Wayfair says, so true. The friend piece is big on my heart for having a partner.

The unfaithful piece as well. Thought the same about attracted to people who are unfaithful. Yeah. You know, like, if, like, like how serious is. Is the friendship? You know, if it’s an ex boyfriend or whatever and there’s flirt, you know, it’s. It’s flirtatious in nature or whatever, then if, if that person really likes you, they cut ties with that person. Like, the actions speak for themselves. You know what I mean? And they definitely would talk about it. I would think if they really cared, if they really liked you, they would let you know, hey, let’s talk about this.

Just so you know, I have a guy friend. And here’s the situation. You know what I mean? That’s. At the very least, that’s letting the person you care about know I’m thinking of you. I know that this is something that might not sit right, you might not like it or whatever. So let’s talk about it, you know, instead of just waiting for it to come up one of these days when that person finds out. And if they’re gay, obviously, like, you know, that’s, you know, there’s not going to be anything there. I mean, I don’t know.

These days you never know. Luck says high five. You’re good because you’re chosen. It’s hard to find someone because God is going to keep your spirit and soul safe and pure. Thanks, God. Thanks so much. You know what I mean? Appreciate it. All I ever wanted my entire life was Like a family. I always wanted to be a dad and have a wife and settle down and stuff, but that, that escapes me personally every time. And just a best friend, you know what I mean? Like a, like some, like a best friend. Someone you’re attracted to obviously, but someone that’s like your best friend.

Like you guys are super close, you know, do everything and there’s no secrets and you know, like if, if you go somewhere they’re you’re going to invite them and vice versa and you know, like a good like together relationship. I don’t, you know, your gut will tell you the truth and, and give you real insight. Yes. XP Black Sheep. Well said. I agree with that. I, my gut tells me I have spidey senses when it comes to like being cheated on and stuff. Like I know, you know what I mean? I know before I have proof, like I just feel it, I sense it, that something’s wrong.

I’ll tell you guys about that. All right, we’ll take a few more comments. Wait, hold on. Let me check how long we’ve been going. Oh yeah, we’ll do a few more comments and then I’ll share my stories with you. All right, let’s see. We got Phil who says if you’re looking for a girl, J Dreamers, I think you could do far worse than a subscriber. People who think like we are are rare. Well, you know, just like it’s weird. It’s. It’s like, you know, that would be weird, I think. I don’t know. That makes me feel weird.

Like I don’t want to like put myself out there or whatever. Like publicly. That’s just. It sounds borderline kind of pathetic. If I were to do something like that. So I don’t want to. And if you guys ever see me adjusting in my chair, it’s cuz I sit at the computer all day. Zed. Zed’s in the chat and says jimmers, a guy friend is an F boy. That is there and no way around it, it’s an F boy. I, I mean I, I could. That makes sense. Man and woman can’t be just friends. At least for 30 plus years old man like me.

Yeah, I know. And like some guys you can tell are F boys just by looking at them, you know what I mean? And then you hear that’s no, that’s just my friend. We’re just friends. You’re like dude, I’m not stupid. Look at that dude. You know what I mean? Get out of here. XP Black Sheep says J Dreamers. Open up the phone lines, damn it. Okay, I will, I will, I will. All right, hold on. Let me take a couple more. I see some more at J Dreamers. Alicia says, J Dreamers. I was the girl with mostly male friends growing up.

One of them told me one day, alicia, no man wants to just be your friends. They want to, you know, very eye opening. I agree. I totally agree. I mean, there’s exceptions. Like I always tell you guys, there’s always anomalies. There’s always exceptions to the rule, okay? But in general, listen, you can test these guys out, okay? If you’re one of those girls that’s, that’s no offense, deluded and thinks, oh, well, I’m not going to ask them out. I’m not going to make a move on them, so they’re not going to make moves on me. And, you know, we’ve, we, we’ve said that we’re just friends or whatever that you, you think in your head, you need to test that out.

You need to text that person and lie and pretend like you are interested and see if they jump and then go back, you know, you tell a white lie. Sorry, but that’s what you need to do. And you need to see if they jump on that. And, and most of the time they will. I promise you they will. Okay, Sorry, but I mean, I’m. I’m speaking from experience. See, hold on. I did have a comment that says that we’re all people incapable of completely platonic relationships. That is possible. That’s, that’s. I mean, I’m not saying that’s not possible.

That’s totally possible, but that’s not the rule. You know, from my experience. I’m talking from my experience, okay? I don’t by any means represent everybody. I have my own little path. I have my own little experiences in life, and so do all of you. And that’s why we’re talking about it. And I appreciate everyone’s feedback, whether you, you know, you feel the same way as me or differently. That’s. I respect that. But I wouldn’t say everyone is completely capable of platonic relationships. Would say that. That’s an absolute statement. And there’s exceptions to that as well. But I have my own experiences.

You know what I mean? Let’s see. Arctic Timberwolf says J Dreamers. I met my Last girlfriend on YouTube. Exclusive for three years. Life Once Lived says, I agree 100%. Do not date a subscriber. God, heart, guardian. I know. Yeah, that makes sense. What else? What else? Anything else? All Right. Cool. One more, and then I’m gonna. I’ll share some of my experiences with you guys. Alicia, Carmena says J Dreamers, you are right. And when I came to terms with that, I was creeped out. 25 years into these relationships, I knew what they really were. All but maybe two.

Right. Well, I. I appreciate you sharing your experiences. And like I said, there’s. There’s exceptions to everything, but in general, and if you look it up on the Internet, as I did for four straight hours, because my heart was broken and I just. I was way in my emotions, and I didn’t. I didn’t know if I was reacting, you know, if I felt if I had the right to feel jealous or jaded or whatever, you know. So I. I looked that up and I saw a lot of people feeling. Basically saying, like, that’s. That’s danger. Red flag.

Red flag. Not. Not a good idea. So somebody just donated 20. Phil. Phil, in the chat, 1476 just donated 20 J Dreamers memberships. And after this, I’m going to go ahead and actually scoot these to the side and I’m going to. I’ll share some of my stories with you guys. Right? My stories are kind of sad, but whatever, I’m happy to share with you guys. Let’s see. I just want to scooch these over so that the alerts are on the side over here. There we go. All right, cool. So here we go. Story time with J Dreamers.

Now, this is fun. You know, get to know me kind of time for everybody. Okay? And, you know, if it’s not your thing, I totally get it. I usually talk about different topics and subjects, but, you know, some of my subscribers like to get to know me. And I like to show you guys I’m not just a TV show. I’m not just some YouTube personality, but I’m a real, actual person. And I’m not AI this. This also helps. So, you know, I’m not AI because that’s right around the corner. But anyways, so going way back, you know, I had this.

This. This love of my life a long time ago. Like, just, man, totally in love. Just ridiculously, stupidly in love with this one girl. And that was a long time ago, okay? And I. We moved in together, and she was. She was on the computer. This is back during AOL days. And she had jumped into the shower. And I came home when she was in the shower, and I heard the computer blinging with message notifications. So I jumped on the computer and I checked it out, and it was from a guy, and the guy was sending messages.

Like, last night was amazing. Are you done showering yet? I can’t wait to see you again. And damn if that didn’t just sink my poor little heart. So I knocked on the bathroom door, I asked her what it was about, and guess what? I didn’t get an apology. I didn’t get, like, you know, oh, my God, I’m so embarrassed. I got yelled at. And. And this has been my experience every time. And remember, this is just my experience, okay? I got yelled at. Like, they got mad at me for jumping onto my own computer, which it was my computer, and reading her messages that were right there, you know? I mean, it’s not like the computer was even turned off.

It was just still on. And so I got yelled at for that. And she tried to make me feel bad. And that’s what brought me to Colorado, actually. So that girl cheated on me, and I didn’t know what to do. And my mom was like, move out here, you know, and start over. So that was. That was. That’s what brought me out here to Colorado. Now when I moved to Colorado, my heart was sick. I was lonely. I don’t like being single. I don’t like being alone. You know what I mean? I like having friends. Like a best friend.

I like having a girlfriend. And the girl that cheated on me, she kept on texting, and eventually she started to apologize and she admitted she was wrong, and she told me the reasons why and stuff, and I was an idiot. And I invited to fly her to Colorado and to move in with me in my studio apartment that I had at the time. Well, long story short, I came home from work again, and she was in bed with someone else. And I walked in, and they didn’t even hear me. I literally stood over my own couch and just watched for a moment.

And that is a feeling. I can’t even describe it. Like, I don’t know how to describe. I mean, I can. I can get, like, little memories of it now, but at the time, man, I thought I was gonna black out. Like, you know what I mean? And, yeah, so I broke up with her again. That was my bad, obviously, for. But I was young back then. I was really young. I was, like, 20. So I broke up with her again, and I went back with her again, and she did the same thing, but the third time she did it, we were living together, and she just gave me the cold shoulder.

She just stopped talking to me. She completely ignored me all day long. And I had no idea why, no idea what the problem was. And I started asking, are you okay? How come you’re not talking to me? And she, like, literally just ignored me, didn’t say anything, pretended like I wasn’t even there. And we lived together, and then she’s cleaning the house all day long. And this is. I’m an idiot for staying with her. I already know, Trust me. But she goes. She cleans the house up or the apartment, and then she goes to the front door and tapes a note to the front door that says, I’m in the bedroom, come on up for someone else.

And this guy walks up the stairs. About five or ten minutes later, I’m outside looking at this note, right? I’m an idiot. I can’t figure this out. I mean, I knew, but I didn’t want to acknowledge it. This guy walks upstairs, and I’m just watching this dude walk up to my apartment, our apartment, and he just shakes his head, puts his hand on my shoulder, and he says, sorry, dog. Don’t hate the player, hate the game. And walks into my apartment, shuts my door. They lock it. And I have to listen to all the stuff that came next.

Messed me up. Messed me up. Finally, I broke up with her finally. That was it. Okay? That was. That was it for that particular person. I thought I learned my lesson and I moved on. You know what I mean? And what else then? I don’t know. There’s a few different people most recently, so that similar things had happened, you know? I mean, I’ve been cheated on, like, a solid seven times, at least. Like in, like, real I’m in love kind of relationships. You know what I mean? And every time that I’ve been in one of those kinds of relationships, it’s ended because the, you know, the person didn’t have the same feelings as I had and whatever.

So one of the most recent times was about four years ago, I was with this girl, some of you probably remember, because I used to have her on my YouTube channel. And I would. I was so proud. I was the most proud boyfriend in the whole world. You know, I wanted to, like, show all of you guys her and introduce you guys, because I really loved that girl. I was really into her. And like I said, I’m not saying any names or anything, it doesn’t matter. But that girl had a guy friend at work, this scrawny little nerdy dude.

Not that that matters, but damn, you know what I mean? I’d be upset no matter who it was, but she had some guy Friend at work. And they were constantly talking, constantly texting, constantly. And her and I were together for about at least a year and a half, two years, before it started to bug me because she would leave and go on dates with this guy. She went to the movies. She’s like, hey, I’m going to the movies with so and so. And I’m like, okay, have fun. I. I wouldn’t be invited. And then she went to Denver to, like, a museum.

She’s, I’m going to Denver today. And then she wouldn’t tell me with who. And then I have to, like, ask, well, who are you going with? Oh, I’m just going with my friend. And that’s whenever the red flags start to go up, when they say a friend. And that’s why I titled that. You know what I mean? Phil. Phil says I’m a glutton for punishment. I am. I know I am. I don’t know why I am, but damn, I am. You’re right. So when they start saying, oh, when you. When you. When they don’t tell you who they’re going with, and they just say, oh, I’m going somewhere.

And, you know, like, there’s going to be other people or, like, this is a bar or this is a club, or, you know, something like that. Like, I feel like it’s natural. It’s natural for me to say, okay, cool. Have fun. By the way, who are you going with? Not that I should have to ask, but who are you going with? You know what I mean? Oh, and girls night. Oh, don’t even get me started on girls night. Oh, my God. I’ve heard the girls night thing so many times. Oh, it’s girls night. We’re all going clubbing.

Sweet. Anyways, back to that other girl. So, yeah, she’s like, I’m going to Denver. I’m like, who you going with? This was, like, four years ago. Oh, I’m going. I’m going with my friend. And that’s it. Not my friend. So and so. Or my guy friend or my girlfriend or nothing. Just my friend. So then I have to press again, and I’m like, all right, which. Which friend is it, by the way? And I’m trying to be cool. I’m trying to, like, keep my calm. Don’t freak out, you know what I mean? And then she tells me it’s this guy friend that she keeps getting closer and closer to.

Right. Over the months. And. And so I’m like, oh, okay, you guys are going to the museum together in Denver, Right? On well, have fun, you know, I’ll be here at home. And so after that, I realized, like, Like I was shaky. I was so nervous. I was shaky. And I’m like, I gotta talk to her. I gotta. I did. I just tell her when she comes home. And I had a whole, like, I didn’t want to come across the wrong way. I didn’t want to, you know, make it sound like I was just jumping to conclusions or jealous for the wrong reasons or anything.

I tried really hard to do like a self diagnostic. And so when she came home, I was like, hey, can we talk? I want to have a chat with you about, you know, some things I’m feeling and stuff. I just want to touch base with you so that we can improve our relationship. And that’s almost word for word what I said. And she’s like, yeah, what is it? What’s going on? And so I explained. I’m kind of uncomfortable. You’re kind of dating this guy friend that you have. You keep going to the movies and mini golf and, you know, all kinds of.

I can’t remember all the different dates, but. And I told her and I’m like, you know, I feel like it’s getting inappropriate, you know, like, you live with me, we’re together. And her response was she just laughed. And she’s like, that’s stupid. And just laughed. He’s just my friend. We’re just friends, okay? My spider sense, my spider senses were on high alert for days as it continued, right? And then she would be on her phone and then kind of like, ha, ha ha, like giggling and then texting back and you know what I mean? Like, it started to bother me.

So I did, I made a decision. Now, some of you might agree with this decision, some of you might disagree with this decision. I decided to go through her phone, right? And my reasoning was I’m either way wrong, in which case I’m doing the wrong thing right now. And I will admit that and I will apologize and I will let her decide if she wants to stay with me or not because it’s wrong to go through someone’s phone. On the other hand, if I’m right, I’m glad I went through this phone. Like, I’m not gonna apologize whatsoever, right? So I made the decision, and when she was sleeping, I went through her phone and guess what I found.

Yes, you could probably guess, right? She was totally flirting with this guy the entire time, being sexual with this guy through text messages and stuff and super inappropriate text messages. And I found other text messages that were saying that she. She was telling her friends because her friends were like, why don’t you break up with that guy and just go be with the other guy? And she’s like, well, I can’t move in with the other guy. Holy crap. You know, like, I was. I was shaking when I’m reading this. Like. Like I couldn’t even breathe. Like, that was met.

That was so messed up that I’m, like, going through this. Like, I’m like, I’m trying to, like, hold on to her phone, you know? And so I had a conversation, let her know, and I asked her to move out immediately. And then I got yelled at. You went through my phone? Oh, my God. I can’t believe you would do that. Blah, blah, blah. And it was my fault. Once again, the tables were turned onto me. Oh, you’re so. You’re a terrible person. Oh, my God. Like, I can’t believe you’re so jealous. And, you know, I can’t believe you don’t trust me and all this stuff.

And my, my. Because I’m a thinker and a Virgo, they’re appealing to my desire to reason things out, right? They’re trying to explain things to me. And it’s. It’s like pseudo communication, when in reality, the other side of my brain is like, nope. The ends justify the means. You chose wisely. Goodbye. Say goodbye. You know what I mean? Don’t hold on. Let go of all those memories. Let go of all those good times. It was fun while it lasted. Cut it. Leave it. You know what I mean? Zedrin is in the chat, says j. Dreamers. Good decision.

For sure. If a woman did the same, it would be okay, right? Yeah. Yeah, there’s definitely. I’ve. I’ve experienced a double standard like you wouldn’t even believe. Okay. And that gets into, like, you know, my child custody issues and all kinds of crap that I’m going through in my personal life. But that’s a different story. But, yeah, definitely seems to be a double standard, you know? And I’ve asked girlfriend after girlfriend if. If I went out with a girl, how would that make you feel? And you know what I almost always hear? I mean, I might not like it, but I’d be okay with that.

It’s your choice. You can do whatever you want to liars. Like, I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m not calling everybody a liar. I’m just saying. Listen, you got to keep in mind, I’m still kind of upset, still kind of hurt, so. But I Don’t believe that crap. I don’t believe you’re okay with that. You know what I mean? If the shoe was on the other foot, forget that. Anyway, so let’s, let’s catch you up to the most recent thing that happened. Right? So I met a girl a couple months ago. I was on like every dating site because I did.

I was lonely. I wanted to, you know, meet someone and have a girlfriend. And I saw it on Facebook, dating, and I met a girl and we were getting along and so I asked her out, you know, see if she wanted to go out and have a drink or something and get to know each other. And we did, and we hit it off. And it was one of those things where it’s just from the beginning, you knew it was going to work out. You know what I mean? I knew. And I was like, wow, this is cool.

So we kept talking, we kept texting. It’s one of those texting all night long kind of relationships, you know, and you just can’t stop thinking about each other and stuff. And, you know, went through that for a few weeks. A couple weeks, two, three weeks maybe. I don’t know. And. And let’s see, I’m trying to, like, gather my thoughts here. So after about two weeks, I guess maybe I’m just guessing, I just let her know, like, hey, just so you know, I. I deleted all those dating apps, you know, I. I don’t. I like you. And, you know, I just wanted to let her know, like, this is where I stand, you know, I like you.

I want to pursue you. I want, I want, I just want. You’re the only girl that I have eyes for, so I’m old fashioned like that, you know, I don’t, you know, date on the side or anything. And some people do whatever, but I don’t. Okay. And I just wanted to let her know that’s where I’m coming from, you know, and also that’s her opportunity if she doesn’t feel that way about me and she wants to just, you know, casually date and go out with a bunch of different people. That’s her chance, right? That’s her chance to say, oh, okay, well, thank you, but I don’t really feel that way, so maybe we should have a chat or break up or whatever.

Right? So she conveyed feelings back to me that like, oh, yeah, I have feelings for you too. I totally like you and, you know, things of that nature. So from that point on, I was kind of under the impression like, you know, we’re gonna be together we’re gonna, like, you know, see. See how far we can go with it, right? And I was really excited. I was really happy about that. And then. And then almost soon after that, you know, there was a couple of weird things that started to happen. Miscommunication and stuff. Like, for example, one of the things is she.

I asked her to be my Facebook friend. And I have, like seven friends on Facebook, okay? So if I ask someone to be my friend on Facebook, like, they’re actually my real, honest to goodness friend. They’re someone I know and I have a relationship with. So that was a big deal to me. It’s kind of a big step or whatever. And so she had access to all my pictures, started looking at all my pictures, and I forgot to take down a picture of one of my ex girlfriends, right? Totally didn’t even know it was up there.

It was a girl I dated like, six months ago or something, and I thought that relationship would work out, and I just. I forgot that that picture was there, right? So she just ignored me all night. Just didn’t talk to me, just didn’t respond. And then the next day, I was trying to communicate, and I’m like, hey, what happened? You know, what’s going on? I haven’t really heard from you. And she told me, you know, I’m sorry, but I looked at your Facebook and I saw this picture of this ex girlfriend, and I was. I got jealous and I was upset, and I was comparing her body to my body and whatever, you know, like, you know how girls can be sometimes, I guess.

And she was just telling me, like, I just. I ignored you. And then she said, how would it make you feel if I told you that I’ve been with physically guys on my friends list? And then my eyebrows shot up, right? I’m, like, at my house texting, and I’m like, what? Hold on, hold the phone. Wait, what have you. You know what I mean? And then her response was, I didn’t say I did. I’m just asking how you’d feel. Well, in reality, she did and has, but then she, like, followed it up with making it sound like, oh, no, no, I didn’t say I have.

Which is like kind of saying, like, I haven’t, just so, you know. But then that’s not really actually the truth, come to find out. So anyways, know, we work things out. I invited her to go out a bunch, you know, she. She said, no, she’s. She’s a busy person, so she couldn’t go out many times. And I Would still keep asking and stuff and still, still keep texting or whatever. And we did go out a couple more times and that was fine. And I was, I was being patient with, with that person, you know, and, and let’s see, I’m trying to think of, like, what happened next.

Oh, and then, so it was a few days back, right? Last Thursday, I woke up in the morning, immediately texted this girl. I’m like, hey, good morning, beautiful. Or whatever, right? And all throughout my day, I’m sending her texts. I sent her, like a love song, you know, a link to a love song that I wanted her to hear. I sent videos of, like, me and my son playing and doing things throughout the day and stuff. And then, you know, later into the afternoon, I got busy trying to do work and hanging out with my son and, you know, taking care of things.

So I didn’t get to text her until later that night. And so later that night, and her and I are both kind of night owls, so I knew she was awake. So I texted her later that night and I’m like, hey, what’s up? How’s your day? Blah, blah, blah. And nothing again, just cold silence. And I try to be respectful. I don’t want to, like, blow up somebody’s phone or whatever. So I’m like, okay, fine. So I waited till the next morning, again in the morning. Hey, good morning. How are you doing? Blah, blah, nothing. Nothing at all.

I’m like, okay, what’s going on, man? Like, what is this? You know? So I text a couple more times and then I finally get a response. Later in the afternoon, right? Excuse me one sec. Let me take a sip here. I’m still kind of shaky, like, just talking about it. So thanks for listening. Remember, this is also kind of therapeutic for me, right? So I’m just, I, I, I have some notes here because I don’t, I don’t want to, like, be misleading to anybody. So we made plans together, texted her all Thursday or whatever. I got ignored.

And then, oh. So later on, on Friday, right, in the afternoon, I finally got a response to me asking, what are you doing today? And all I got was concert later. You. That was it. Just three words, concert later. So she had told me a few weeks back that she was going to go to like, a Metallica concert, and she just kind of mentioned it in passing. And then now I’m like, oh, oh, yeah, that’s right. I remember she’s going to that concert. But then I connected her ignoring me and not talking. And now we’re having Problems with her going to a concert.

So obviously I’m like, okay, well, I need to find out what’s going on, like, are we good or what? So she wouldn’t respond to me. And then when she finally did, she told me she’s going to go to a three day long Metallica concert in Denver. And I’m like, wow, three days in Denver at a Metallica concert. Okay. So, you know, my mind is wandering and the main question is, who are you going to go with? Like, I wasn’t invited, you know, so I’m just, you know, and I know we just kind of just met. We were only dating for like two months.

So I’m thinking to myself, maybe like some other guy that she was going out with bought her tickets and she doesn’t want to, you know, waste the money or. I started just trying to, you know, fill in the blanks in my own head, right? So I asked her straight up, right? I asked her, are you going alone? No answer. I mean, I, I was direct. I’m like, I should just straight up get to the point and ask her, like, are you going by yourself? Didn’t answer. So I offered to buy a ticket. I, I was like, I was like, well, if you’re going by yourself, I, you know, I could totally buy a ticket if you, if you want to go with the date.

No answer. So then I felt stupid and then I was like, that’s inappropriate. My bad, I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have invited myself to your concert. No answer. So I started getting worried and I asked her straight up, are you going on a date? Like I’m asking like, are you going, Are you seeing someone else? Basically, right? The only reply I got was, it’s sold out. That was like, in response to me saying, I’ll get a ticket. Nothing addressing me asking clearly, like, hey, are you gonna meet some other guy there? Are you going out on a date? What’s going on here? You know, just nothing.

Just, oh, it’s sold out, meaning you can’t come. And I’m like, okay. So seeing that she avoided my question about going on a date, I kept pressing and at this point I should have stopped. You know what I mean? I know the spider senses are tingling. I should have just stopped. But this is where I go wrong and where I always go wrong. So I pressed again and I asked, are you going out with somebody? Are you seeing someone else? I mean, I said, are you going with someone? And then she told me, going with my son, which is true.

She did take her Son. She has children. So she did decide to take her son to this concert, but she still didn’t like a. She still didn’t respond to like the obvious question. The elephant in the room that I’m asking her, like, hey, you know, you’ve been ignoring me this whole time. You’re being real curt and real short. Are you seeing someone else? Are you going to go meet somebody? That’s really what I’m asking, right? So she just responds by saying, I’m going with my son. I’m like, okay. So thinking she might be meeting somebody possibly and maybe that person has a kid too, you know, and it’s like they’re gonna meet up and their kids can hang out and who knows? I don’t know.

So I responded and I said, okay, cool. I was a little worried for a moment, lol. Which is like super nervous laughter on my part and I’m trying to let her know, like, okay, cool. I was kind of worried, you know, maybe you’re seeing like another guy. Right? I’m trying to like acknowledge the elephant in the room. I didn’t know that you were going with your son. That’s cool that he likes similar music and her son’s you know, like 17, 18. He’s, he’s, you know, he’s old enough to go to concerts and stuff and I think that’s fine.

So I continue and I say, you, you weren’t saying much to me last night or this morning and I forgot about the concert. I thought maybe you made plans with somebody that you met before me and you didn’t want to like break those plans. Lol. Again, like kind of nervous laughter. Well, I’m sure you’re busy getting ready to go on your three days of music vacation with your son, so, you know, hope you have fun. And then she just says, thanks, it should be amazing. But then I keep having that sixth sense that something’s wrong, something’s not being said.

You know what I mean? I just knew. So I came back and I texted again and I said, hey, like I’m just curious, is it just you and your son going or are you meeting up with anybody that’s going to be there? I’m trying really hard to like force an answer to this question. No reply. So I decided to lie, right? I decided to try to test, test it out and lie to see what would be said. So I said, alright. I said, if you’re meeting somebody or you had plans before you and I met, you know, to go to this concert, I won’t Mind, as long as we communicate and we’re honest with you, with each other, I just want to make sure we’re on the same page.

Hold on. I can’t. I can’t see my live stream. I want to come back now. So I lied, okay? Just, like, taking the chance with looking at the ex girlfriend’s phone or whatever. I took a chance and I lied, saying, hey, if you’re actually meeting up with an ex, I’m cool with that. I’m not. You know what I mean? But I’ve used this lie in the past, and it’s worked for some reason, and it worked this time. Let me jump back to my notes here. So, yeah, I’m like, hey, you know, if you’re going to meet up with someone, you could just let me know.

I totally won’t mind. So then I get a response that says, I do have two different friends that I want to meet up with while I’m there. You know, like at a bar during Limp Bizkit’s concert or their session or whatever. Both are friends and nothing more. And I’m like, both are friends and nothing more. Why would she say that? They’re guys. And, like, why would you even need to say that? So now I’m like. I’m really thinking this, and I’m probably. I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or what, okay? But my heart is pounding, right? I’m like, my feelings, like, I put myself out there for somebody and now they’re ignoring me.

They’re gonna go meet up with, like, different people, and I don’t know what’s going on here. They’re guys. So I ask her, is it a guy friend? And she says, yeah, both of them are guys. And that’s it. No explanation, no like, how she knows them or nothing. Just, oh, yeah, I’m gonna go meet a couple guys. And I’m like, what the fudge, right? So I guess the guy’s name. And I’m like, is it that guy? Because I saw this dude on Facebook right? Now, this dude that I saw on her Facebook Facebook puts your friends that you talk to most towards the top of your little friend’s section, okay? So that when you look at their friends, the main ones you see are the main ones that they usually talk to or, you know, comments or stuff like that.

And I saw this dude that looked like he didn’t fit in her friends list. And I looked at it, and he’s all of his. He’s single and he. He looks like, one of the typical Jersey boys, you know what I mean? Like, this dude’s flexing in all his pictures. He’s got muscles the size of my head. And you know what I mean? It looks like a dating profile. Basically, his whole Facebook page. And he’s like, leaving little likes on her pictures and stuff. And I’m like, okay, I think I’m putting two and two together in my mind.

I’m like, yeah, that’s the guy. So I asked her, is that the guy? And she’s like, oh, you mean the guy from my Facebook? I’m like, what other guy? I named him by name. You mean that. You mean. You mean that guy from my Facebook? I’m like, that’s my guess. Lol. And she says, damn, that’s impressive. Yep, one of the guys is him. And that’s it. Nothing else. And I’m like, great, great. Just her friend. Just a friend and nothing more. Okay, so later on, right, we’re continuing a conversation throughout the night, and I let her know I’m in my feelings about this.

So later on, I learn that this Facebook friend is a guy that she had a fling with for two days over six months ago and just kept him around. And now she’s going to go meet up, and her story is that I’m just gonna go say hi. I’m just gonna go meet him at the bar and just say hi. And I’m just like, why? I’m thinking to myself, why. Why would you even do that? You know what I mean? Like, what is the reason to even keep someone like that around? Why would you. Why would you even want to go say hi like you.

You didn’t. I don’t know. So I kept asking, and she insisted he. He wanted to meet her. And her story is that she wanted. He wanted. This means they’re talking, by the way, right? Of course. So this means they’ve been talking. So she says, oh, he just want. He just wanted to introduce me to his girlfriend. And I’m like, that’s weird. Some guy you just had a fling with for a couple days, six months ago, and you, strangely enough, are still talking to each other, wants to introduce you to his new girlfriend. You know what I mean? That’s.

That’s what I’m being told. I’m not saying it’s a lie. I’m not saying whatever. I’m just saying, like, this is all looking really weird. And so she’s trying to tell me that I shouldn’t freak out, that I shouldn’t even make a Big deal about it. And it’s all innocent, and they’re just buddies and they’re just pals and they’re just friends. And I asked her, did you sleep with that dude? And the answer is yes, right? That. That they were together a while back, six months ago or whatever. The other guy, she said was married. And this is, like, way later on in the night, right? Whenever I had told her, hey, I’m upset about this, okay? Like, I’m.

I’m feeling really jealous, right? I mean, I’m. I’m just giving you the short of, like, a very long argument, but I was trying to be really honest. I’m like, hey, I like you. And this is upsetting to me to hear this. And the response way later in the night is like, oh, well, just so you know, one guy’s married, and the other guy wants me to meet his girlfriend and this and that, like, way later in the night. And I’m like, okay, I don’t know, right? So I told her my feelings were hurt, and then she got angry with me, which is right on court, right on par for course for me, right? Somebody else does something that’s heartbreaking or offensive or inconsiderate at the very least, and I’m the bad guy.

You know what I mean? I’m not in the chat right now. Sorry, I’ll jump back in in a second. But then. Then that blows my mind because then I’m running another self diagnostic and I’m like, am I. Like, am I overreacting? Am I. And. And, you know, like, I’m trying to get her to put herself in my shoes and say, understand where I’m coming from, right? So there was a long argument. She decided to. To not stay for all three days after this. So she decided to come straight home after the first night instead of staying there for three nights.

And I tried to get her to see things from my perspective, and I never got an apology because apparently she doesn’t think that that’s something she should apologize for. She, you know, she can ignore me and clearly make it so that there’s. It seems like there’s a problem between us and then go out and meet guys and then, like, make it so that I’m, like, basically begging, like, who are you going with? Like, are we. Are we still together? Are you seeing someone else? What’s going on? You know what I mean? Like, just kind of leading me on, and it was hurting.

Like, it was. It was hurting me on the inside, and I was mad at myself also. So she Insisted I was overreacting and that she was just being honest with me and that she, you know, wasn’t hiding anything because she answered all my questions. So later she told me that she was having second. Later on, when I’m asking her, like, hey, why were you ignoring me? She’d straight up told me she was having second thoughts and didn’t think our relationship was going to work out before she went to the contest. I mean, to the concert, right? So now I learned today, right, earlier today, that now.

Now it comes out, oh, well, I was ignoring you and I was being short with you because I didn’t think we were gonna work out. And then I decided to go meet up with this guy I had a fling with and. Oh, that’s my business. It’s just. We’re just friends. Well, you know, I mean, like, is that fucked up? I’m just asking, like, you know. So here’s my question. I’m back in the chat now. My question is, is it natural for a person like me under these. And keep in mind, this is my side of the story.

This is all from my perspective, okay? I know everyone. There’s always two sides to every story. Everyone always has their own version or whatever. I’m just sharing mine. I’m sharing what I went through. And keep in mind, I’ve got like a thousand prior stories of similar things, and I’m like, they all come back. They all come flooding back like flashbacks. And I’m like, not again. Not again. You know, damn it. Right? Like, will I ever. You know. Anyways, the question is, would it be natural for a person to feel upset, betrayed, heartbroken, even if the person wasn’t going there to make out with someone or to have sex with somebody or, you know, whatever? Like, it’s emotional betrayal.

There could have been a conversation. There could have been honesty and openness and, you know, but instead it was just all this weird. Like. Or. Or am I overreacting? Honestly? You know what I mean? Like, you can tell me. I’m. I’m. I’m good at taking constructive criticism. Not insulting criticism, but constructive criticism. You know, are my feelings misplaced? You know that I feel heartbroken and sad and disappointed and confused? You know what I mean? I don’t know. That’s. That’s my story. So that’s the story. I’ll jump into the chat. Craig agrees that. He says it’s. It’s fucked up.

Grimy says, leave her alone. And even after all that, I still tried to talk to her, and she just stuck to her story and even said worse things, like, you know, I didn’t think it was gonna work out anyway. And I’m like, oh, my God. Okay, Kimberly makes a good point. She says, anyone that values you will tell you to your face what’s going on. That’s actually something I said to her. I was. I said, I fully expected you to, like, come over and talk to me. Like, you know, like, if I meant something to you, you’d be at my door, we’d be talking.

You know, I can’t go to her house because I don’t even know where she lives. Like, you know, but she knows where I live. And, you know, she could call or she could have called, or she could have come over and we could have worked it out, but she didn’t. And I told her, like, that. That says a lot. Tiffany says, don’t harden that beautiful heart. I appreciate it. I’ve been tempted, my first for years, to just have a hardened heart. And, you know. You know. You know, when it’s messed up. How many times I’ve been asked if I was a player, that.

That really upsets me. Like, if you’re not a player and someone asks you if you’re a player, that’s so offensive. You know what I mean? Like, it’s. It’s sort of complimentary in a way, you know, that people are impressed by me, I guess, but. Jesus Christ. You know, and that’s. That. That comes to the YouTube thing, right? So that I told this person that I would. What I do. I don’t know. She might even be watching right now. I don’t even know. But. And I did tell her, like, hey, I’m going to. I’m not going to say your name.

I’m not going to. You know, it’s not about you, but I’m going to tell my audience, like, what happened and the situation. But it’s going to be anonymous, so I let her know, and she said, fine. But anyways, I told her that I do YouTube and stuff, and she saw that I have 100,000 subscribers. And she kept on saying things like, you must have all kinds of girls all the time throwing themselves at you. You must hear stuff like this. You must say this to all the girls. And I’m just like, dude, like, stop taking my compliments and turning it into garbage.

You know what I mean? Like, forget the YouTube stuff. Just forget about it. This is why I can’t date anybody that, like, watches my YouTube channel. Like, just forget about that. You know? But she kept on saying stuff like, you know, oh, and whenever I took that picture down of my ex on Facebook, I immediately took it down because I didn’t know it was there. I had no idea that picture was there. She found it, and I was like, oh, snap. Thanks for telling me. I actually don’t even want that picture there, you know? So I went and deleted it, and she begged me not to.

She said, no, no, no, don’t delete it. No. It’s your life. You’re free to make any decisions you want to. No, no, don’t do that because of me. I’m like, I’m not doing it because of you. I’m doing it because of me. Thank you for letting me know. I don’t want that person’s picture on my profile. Forget that. You know what I mean? But then she liked. She was like, no, put it back. Put it back up. It’s fine. You know, I’m like, why do you want me to keep a picture of my ex girlfriend on my Facebook page? So it seems to me, my guess, if I had to guess, is that it just establishes how serious the person was, you know, they’re obviously not that serious.

They want me to have something wrong with me. They want me to have, like, some skeleton in my closet so they can feel good about theirs. That’s my guess. I don’t know. But anyways, yeah, she’s always saying things like, oh, you probably have. You probably talk to all the girls. I’m like, what? No. I’ve had comments where people ask me to marry them. I’ve had love letters sent to me. I’ve had all kinds of stuff. And I’m not bragging or anything. Okay, I’m honored. It’s a compliment. But the reality is, like, you know, I don’t flirt with subscribers.

Like, no offense, you know what I mean? Like, and. And even if I did find one I liked, most of you guys live in, like, other countries and states and stuff, so it’s not even feasible, you know? So it’s just not a reality. But it was being used against me anyways. Oh, Commonwealth Dank says, channel the divine masculine spirit and women will respect you. That is a problem I’ve had my whole life is I have. I have noticeable feminine energy. You know what I mean? Like, I have a masculine side. Duh. You know? But I try to be balanced in all things.

So I also have, like, you know, a childlike, innocent side, and I have a feminine energy side and stuff, too, because that’s. That’s just my spirit. But I I agree with you. Like I’ve seen. And I’m not speaking for everybody, like I said, I’m just speaking my own thing, right? Many girls I’ve met don’t. They don’t like that, that they’re not attracted to that. And that makes sense, you know, feminine energy. They’re not going to really be attracted to that. They want, and I’m not speaking for everybody, I’m totally stereotyping. But they want some guy with big muscles who is an alpha male, tells them what to do, very grounded in their thinking and you know what I mean? I don’t know.

Not philosophers. I don’t know a femboy. What is a femboy? I don’t know about that. I don’t know. I mean, trust me, you guys only see a few sides of me. You see a very light hearted side or whatever. But you know, I can be pretty, pretty masculine on, outside of the YouTube world or whatever. Not that I’m not, but I don’t think that’s the problem. It’s not masculinity or femininity. That’s, that’s the issue, I think. I don’t know though. Oh, and then, and then she. Okay, so here’s the money thing too, right? So she anonymously, whenever I was telling people I need donation.

I mean, I wasn’t saying I need donations. Sorry, I’m still nervous. But when I was, you know, I put all this stuff up here because, because this is my job, right? And people ask me if they can donate and they want to help me out, which I appreciate. And when, when I get the help from viewers and subscribers and you guys use stuff like that to donate or whatever. I get to go make memories with my son and my daughter and I get to go have, you know, like take pictures and pay for gas and you know, take my son out to eat or whatever, whatever it may be, it makes my life better and it adds to my happiness.

So when she, when she heard me doing this last call in show, she actually donated a bunch of money and I didn’t know it was her. So once we started arguing then it came out and it was, you know, kind of rubbed in my face. So I gave that money back because I don’t want to be somebody that’s, I don’t want anyone to accuse me of like, oh, well, you took my donation or you know what I mean? Like, which is another reason why I don’t date subscribers. But anyways, you know, I’m not. It’s weird. It’s Kind of weird to talk about, but, yeah, I just.

I gave that back. I’m like, no, no, don’t make it sound like I’m using for anybody for. For money or anything. You know, I’ve. I’ve. For 10 years, I’ve been doing this, and I’ve. I like to think I’ve been pretty humble for 10 years. Right. Never asked for money. Right. I only even monetized my channel because you guys told me to. I had a big, you know, conundrum, like, should I monetize? I don’t know. Everyone’s. You know, there’s. There’s one camp where people are saying the truth should be free. The other camp is saying, you know, people need to make money.

You know, they add value and they get value in return. And so I monetize my channel, and I’ve been doing this as my main source of work for, like, five years at least. Honey badgers in the chat says, J Dreamers. I don’t think that you have to not date a subscriber, but maybe take more time to figure out values before letting yourself go so far. Yeah, I mean, that’s a good idea, but I’m not trying to, like, go through my subscribers. That just sounds too weird. You know what I mean? I don’t want to do that.

I just. I can’t. I’d rather be. And. And I know other people are like, why don’t you meet a girl at the supermarket? Why don’t you meet a girl at the library? Or whatever. Problem is, I don’t get out. I mean, I’m in here studying all day long. I’m in here working on my website. I’m in here. I’m. I’ve made myself really reclusive since that one girl I told you about that had the guy friend 4 years ago that broke my heart. So I just. I gave up. I didn’t want to go out. I didn’t want to meet people at work.

You know what I mean? Like, I just didn’t. So I just. I started, you know, jumping onto dating apps or whatever and seeing if that works. I don’t know. I’m an idiot. I’m retarded, like, when it comes to dating. So I’m not even here to give advice. You know what I mean? And I’m probably wrong about anything that I’m. I’m saying, as far as dating advice goes, I mean, I haven’t even given any, but I’m. I feel like it’s just my lot in life. I don’t know if you guys have ever felt that way, but I just feel like, you know, it’s.

It’s not in the cards for me. I don’t know. Anyways, so I know this is a weird topic. I know it’s not anything I normally talk about or whatever, but Jesus, it’s therapeutic. Thank you so much. I just want to thank you guys for, for being here, for, you know, just for being a part of it. And this is not something I’m gonna do all the time or anything, you know, but every once in a while in the past 10 years, I’ve gone off topic and this is one of those times, you know, I need it.

I need. I need to get it off my chest so that I can move on, so that I can keep bringing you guys, you know, the content that you are interested in. You know, the plasma apocalypse, ancient oblivion, hidden history, conspiracies, fringe theories, all that stuff. That’s my passion. I love talking about that. But if I don’t get this stuff off my chest and I walk around sulking with a broken heart, I’m not going to be able to do. Do any work, you know what I mean? So I might even. I’m out. Usually I take videos like this down after I do them, you know, because they’re.

They’re not a part of my whole channel. So anyways, if you guys want to call in, I will take callers. I’ll go ahead and let me put the phone number up. And if you guys, you can. You guys could share anything you want to. Okay? Anything you want to. If you’ve had similar experiences, if you’ve got some advice, whatever it is, if you just want to say hi, you want to give yourself a shout out or somebody else, you can call in. And we’ll do that for about a half an hour or so. We’ll see how it goes.

Let me get the phone number pulled up here. See? Phone number pal. There it is. All right, cool. And I’ll go ahead and turn on the phone lines. All right, cool. The phone lines are on. Take it easy on me. I’m nervous, okay? I’m a real person, right. I don’t normally do call in shows and stuff, so be kind or I will hang up probably. Let me make sure I got my headphones plugged in too. Okay? I do, yes. So some people said they wanted to call in. Feel free to call in, share whatever you want, you know, and we can chat for five minutes or so and thank you, thank you, thank you guys.

And if you’re going through similar things. My heart goes out to you, it really does. Especially if you wear your emotions on your sleeves, you know, if you have a big heart. Okay, so I got my first caller. Let’s go ahead and answer. Call from XP Black Sheep Peter to accept Black Sheep 1. Peter to send a voicemail. XP Black Sheep. What’s up, Peter? This is Jay Dreamers. J Dreamers. What’s up, girl? Hey, how’s it going? Pretty good, dude. I talked to you a few days ago about like Little Season and the book you recommended me.

Yeah, we talked about the Pilgrim’s Progress. How’s it going? Pretty good, dude. Okay, so man, like, the situation that you’re describing is what I’m seeing all over the place. Like, all right, so I’m noticing like, and I, I really don’t have too many friends, but like the friends that I do have, I value to, you know, like the highest regard. Nice. I feel like they’re God given, but I’m watching a lot of people like in, in this predicament and like, I don’t know, man, it’s, it’s really hard to describe, but like, this is like Edward Bernays 19, early 1900s propaganda feminism, like, playing out in real time where it’s just like females and no, no offense to any females that are like watching your stream because they, they probably all understand.

But like, this like third wave of feminism is, is really doing a, a really destructive move on our cultural, like, societal level to where it’s just like, okay, social media, right? If anybody thinks that social media was like just invented for, you know, just, just to post pictures and your profile and stuff, it’s like, dude, no way. No effing way, dude. Like, of us and allow us to tell on ourselves and build dossiers on ourselves. Absolutely. And like, dude, if you’re in a relationship, right, Like a meaningful relationship, social media, like Facebook, social whatever, whatever you want to name it, like whatever, whatever flavor you want to go with, whether it’s X.

Facebook, right. Instagram, TikTok, whatever. It’s meant to break down the nuclear family, right? Because like so many like, okay, so I’m, I’m married. I’m married. Right? Nice. I 100 trust my wife. We’ve been through the gambit. You know, I talked to you a few days ago about the Little Season. And what I’ve noticed throughout time is that like social media is, has been there to really destroy the family at the nuclear level to the point where like anybody can slide into anybody’s dms and it’s just, like, so simple for people to start, like. Like, cheating on each other.

You know what I mean? And so, you know, it’s only by the grace of God that, like, my wife and I are on the same page. But. And I got off of social media about a year ago, and I’ve been in this, like, social media battle for. Since, like, 2013, because, like, I was in drug court at one point in time, and they were, like, tracking our locations. But so I got back on social media, Instagram specifically, like, back in, let’s see, like, 2023 through 2024. And I was like, this is so faking gay, right? Especially, like, you know what else is super fake is, like, having 4,000 friends.

Like, you know it is, dude. Like, they’re all fake. 4,000 friends. Like, hey, you want to be my Facebook friend? Or whatever. Like, I’d rather actually have real friends, even if I have two. Two real friends versus 4,000 fake friends to just, like, act as little friend trophies. Forget that. Yeah, yeah. And then a lot of those friends that are fake, they’re actually just keeping tabs. Like, it allows us to spy on each other. Like. Like, with my story, I told you. You know, like, the girl went through my Facebook, and then I got jealous, and I went and looked at hers or whatever, when.

You know what I mean? Like, it. Like, you said, it encourages that. Like, it’s there. It’s right there for people to. To go look at or whatever. And. Yeah, yeah, dude. And, like, okay, so you’re on Instagram. Let’s just say just Instagram as. As an example. And, like, dude, you flipped down, like, a few posts, and it’s just like, all right, porn. Like, this girl showing her butthole, and it’s just like, come on, dude. What? I’m not even trying to look at that. Like, I’m trying to, like, you know what? I get a lot on Instag so people will find out that I have Instagram.

And I didn’t even realize that you could message somebody. Like, I just found that out, like, I don’t know, a couple years ago. I had no idea you can use that to message people. So I checked all my messages, and I was heartbroken because it’s like, it’s like, for me, being a YouTuber and, you know, being someone in the public eye, like, what I was hoping for is like, hey, what’s up, Jay? My name’s so and so and blah, blah, blah, and, like, normal conversation. Instead, I just get people sending me random links and like, hey, check this out.

Or you know what I mean? Like, like really impersonal messages. And I’m just like, yeah, what the heck? Like, yeah, I don’t know. But yeah, like they’re, they’re definitely using the social media like you said, to break, to break down the family unit and to. And it’s a part of what’s happening. It’s part of the season of Satan as we talk about here on my channel. And I don’t know if you’ve ever read it, but Behold the pale Horse. Have you read that? Oh, of course I’ve read that. Yeah. That was the first book that’s required reading for any conspiracy theorist.

Right? Dude, come on. Like, that’s the first book you should read. Yes. So you remember they had that paper that was found in the fax machine that he presents called the Silent weapons for Quiet wars. Silent weapons were quite warm. And that’s what they talk about. They talk about how in the future, the plan for the Illuminati and the world leaders was to break down the family unit, break down traditional values and to separate everybody, to keep everybody separate, keep children away from their, their parents, keep parents away from each other. And that extends obviously more and more and more even down into like dating and boyfriends and girlfriends and relationships and all that stuff.

You know what I mean? Yeah. It’s just a huge breakdown under this guise, this umbrella of oneness and equality and openness and stuff, when in reality everybody’s divided, you know? Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. Dude. That’s why we, like. So like, like I was saying before, like, we have a 14 year old daughter and as soon as. I don’t want to say anything crazy, but like, as soon as 2020 rolled around, we started homeschooling our daughter because we’re like, nope, we’re pulling her out. We’re pulling her out, dude. Like, and I could. We want to, we want to teach her the real history.

We don’t want her, like, have to take any, you know, mandatory jabs to just like go to this indoctrination camp. Yeah. And you know what I mean? And even from like my family, we were mocked. We were, you know, every. Everything under the sun, dude. Like, we were mocked, ridiculed, everything. But like, we know that, like, we had to do what we had to do to protect like this generation going forward. So someone in the chat, folo Ryan says it’s the great falling away. That’s, I tend to agree with that is a huge falling away. You know, people are walking around, confused, untrusting.

Absolutely. It’s just a carefree society where everything is accepted except for anything that’s traditional or moral. You know what I mean? Like, immorality is popular and it’s accepted. It’s normal, you know, to, for people to, to just. Yeah, like, like, absolutely. Like depravity is the new norm. Yeah. You know, and it’s just like I have, I have friends that are like struggling with this. Like, like brothers in Christ that are like really struggling with this right now. And it’s like no judgment, no, no shame towards them, but it’s just like, dude, they’re, they’re falling into this.

Like, you know, they’re on, they’re on this like side of the fence, this godly side of the fence, but they’re also like flirting with this worldly side of the fence where they’re still like going to bars and still trying to pick up chicks. But it’s just like you’re also trying to be godly and it’s just like, yeah, the world, I don’t know, easy on us, especially as children. You know, like most people don’t know what to do. You know, they’re just trying their best. They didn’t have role models to look up to when they were growing up.

Their role model was tv. Their role model was all the breakdown in society and stuff. And so they’re, you know, I don’t, I, I personally don’t like point the finger and say, you know, oh, all these people are choosing to be evil. They just don’t know any better. You know, they’re, they’re trying their best. There’s a lot of people out there that are really trying their best. Right. That’s all they know. You know, that’s, that’s what I’m doing. I’m. That’s all right. Yeah, because like, cause like the boomerang, the like the boomer generation, like, I don’t know, man, they have their own like, set of ideas and, and I mean like they can’t be convinced one way or the other.

Like they’re set in their ways, but it’s just like, dude, they were propagandized in a certain way and like our generation has been propagandized in its certain way but like we can see through it. So it’s just like it, it’s not like we can really point the finger because like, dude, it’s an all out attack on like humanity. Right. That makes sense. Well, I’m going to let you go so I can take another Caller, I will say there’s balance to everything. Prior generations had their problems. Current generations have their problems. You know what I mean? So from.

From my perspective, on my own personal walk, I strive for balance, and there’s. When. When I strive for balance, I’m caught between two sides, which can come with a lot of confusion, you know. But thank you so much for calling in again, and I super appreciate it, and I’m sure I’ll talk to you again sometime. We’ll probably do more calling shows. Oh, dude, I’m gonna talk to you a lot. Well, it was nice to chat with you. Absolutely, dude. All right, bye. Bye. All right, later. All right, sweet. Well, so we had another caller, a repeat caller, which is awesome.

I see a lot of people in the chat. I appreciate you guys. I hope you guys are, you know, are just representing the Good Vibe tribe and sharing good advice with one another and sharing good conversations with each other. It’s nice. The phones lines are open. If anybody else wants to call in. We’ll take another call. We’ll probably go for 15 more minutes or so. And like I said, I don’t know if I’ll keep the video up or not because this is way different content than what I normally do. And this is kind of my job, you know, And I don’t want to deter people from watching my normal content and subject matter and stuff, or buying my books or whatever.

But, you know, like I said, it’s therapeutic for me to be able to just talk about what I’m going through, talk about my feelings and. And it’s helpful for other people, which is another reason why I wanted to do it. You know, I’m not the type of person. I don’t want to jump on the Internet and, like, slander one person in particular and, you know, just put them on blast or anything like that, which is why I haven’t. So it’s therapeutic, and it’s better than going to therapy for me personally. Marlene. Marlene is on the phone.

To accept, press one. Marlene, what’s up? This is J. Dreamers. Hey, what’s up? How are you? I’m all. I’m okay. I’m hanging in there. How are you? I’m pretty good. Just listening to your show, and I went through something, you know, similar with somebody a few years back. And I’m thinking with listening to you, just talk to the last caller. This is. This is basically the AI Takeover, and that. This is how they’re warring with us. That’s what I think. The AI Takeover. Tell me some more about your thoughts on that. It’s just. I just, you know, I mean, that’s what.

That’s biblical as well. Right. You know, and that’s everybody’s warning about that happening. And what better way to do it, you know, than convincing us things and of things like, oh, you need to, you know, your significant other’s phone, you need to check the apps, you know, what’s going on, because, you know, I’ve suffered with having to deal with the same thing. Right. You know, and once it gets in your mind, it’s like. It’s like a. It just takes over. It’s like a parasite. Yeah, that’s a good way of putting it, actually, that it takes over your mind like a parasite.

You know, all the. All the mistrust that’s happening in the world that floods into things like relationships and stuff. It’s a crazy world. It’s a crazy place, and it’s not easy. And I applaud us all, pat on the back to everybody who is getting through it, you know, it might not be easy, might not be fun, might not feel good, but in the long run, I’ve always believed that it’ll make us stronger as long as we keep holding on, you know? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. That was just. Yeah. Coincided perfectly. So I. It kind of was like a revelation to myself and, like, oh, I better call and say, hey, I think that might be what’s going on right now.

Well, good. I’m glad you did. Yeah, absolutely. So thanks for letting me call. You’re very welcome. All right, talk to you later. Bye. All right, I did have somebody call in while I was on the line, so I’m opening up the phone lines again. If you’d like to call in, the phone number is right up here. You’re free to share your thoughts on anything you want to, as long as it’s respectful. You know, we talked about a lot of different things so far, and it doesn’t have to be about my. Anything I’ve shared, you know, I mean, you guys can call in for whatever.

Happy days in the chat, asked if I could leave the video up for an extra hour because I said I don’t know if I want to keep this video up or not. And when I share personal things, I usually don’t live the video up. But, yeah, I’ll leave it up long enough for people to watch. You know what I mean? It’s not just for me. It’s not just. Just a therapy session. And, you know, I don’t want to go to therapy. I don’t want to go talk to some stranger that doesn’t care about me, that doesn’t know me.

You guys know me better than a therapist. You guys are my therapy. You know what I mean? All right, let me jump back on the lines. Call from Tiffany Marie. It’s Tiffany Marie. Aloha. What’s up, Tiffany Marie? It’s J. Dreamer. Hey, yo, what’s up? Hey. Aloha. Aloha. How’s it going? Is this day dreamer? This is me in the flesh. Oh, my goodness gracious. How are you? You know. You know, I. I was listening to that whole thing about that chick and, you know. You know. Yeah. I mean, it happens. You know, it’s just happening to me right now.

It does. It does happen. You know, I’ve actually been that chick one time. Oh. And, you know, I. I actually, like. I. Not, you know, not like that, but I have actually been that chick one time. You know, but the dude is. He deserved it. Like, he did. He. He, like, threw my out of the boat. Threw me out of the boat. Broke my foot and, you know, like all kinds of crazy crap. Yikes. And I still gave him a chance anyway. But you know, that. Girl, don’t you ever, ever, ever doubt yourself, because you are freaking awesome.

I mean, you were just like, your heart and your soul and everything that you do and all that you’ve done, you know, for your kids and, you know, like, I’m so sorry that you’re not on the east coast because that’s. That’s where the good. You know, that’s where the good ones are. Yeah, that’s. That’s who the good ones are. Yeah. I’ve never been on. I mean, I. I’ve never really lived on the east coast that much, I imagine. It’s. It’s a different world. It. It is. It’s different. And I’ve never been where you are, but, like, I grew up in New Hampshire, you know, like, man on the mountain.

Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, I. I know you like traveling and doing all that. I do like to travel. Yeah. This way. Yeah, definitely. One of these days I will, like, people invite me to stop by, you know, and, like, people have offered to let me, like, stay at their places and tour the world and stuff, and that’s. That is something I’ve always wanted to do. I would just. Yeah. If I do that, definitely, you know how to work out doing that and seeing accommodations and stuff and. Yeah. So. Yeah. And bring the kids. Definitely. Sweet.

Definitely bring the kids. Yeah. So what was the Other thing that we were talking about. I don’t know. Thanks. Am I. Am I online? Am I on that? Yeah, we’re live. We’re so. We’re totally live. No, so I’m in. I’m in southeast Georgia. Okay. So we got, like. It’s called St. Mary’s I bought your books. I’m at 11. 11. You know. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Thank you. Yeah, you’re welcome. Anyway, so we’re, like, right on this, like, little alcove where, like, the hurricanes, like, don’t get us. Right. Yeah. I did live in North Carolina for just a small period of time in the Marines.

Did you? Yeah. You know where Cherry Point is? Yes. Yeah, I was there. Yeah. That went through. We had a huge hurricane party. It’s pretty fun. I know. Like, when I lived on Nantucket, we used to have hurricane parties. I used to be a surfer. He’s like. Yeah, but you know that red tide that you talk about in your. In your thing? Yeah. Like, that used to be just, like, natural. Wow. I mean, it. It just used to, like, roll up in the surf and it gets all stuck in my hair. Like I have reddish blonde hair, and we get all, like, tangled in there.

And then the phosphorescence things, the things that glow that are, like. Right. What are. What is that? A What. What is that? Bioluminescent. But, yeah, those things. That looks pretty cool at night. Yeah, they. They. Yeah, but I mean, they don’t kill you, so eventually, eventually, when. When the plasma, you know, thing. Apocalypse thing happens, that’s. That’s going to be a bad thing. You know, everything in moderation. But when it comes to, like, bioluminescent waters or whatever, you know, maybe if you go out for a surf or something, it might not be too bad, but if.

If you’re going to the beach all the time and in toxic waters, that’s, you know, could probably have an effect on a person. Yeah. Maybe that’s why I’m stupid. I’m kidding. No. Yeah. So I. I can see, like, the way that the water’s changing around here. Oh, yeah. And. And the, the thunderstorms. Are they getting worse in your. In, in your area? They’re wicked. Yeah. I mean, they’re wicked. I mean, they’re just. I mean, we had a tornado in the mountains in the Rockies. Yes, I saw that. Yeah. It’s crazy. Yeah. I mean, this weather is phenomenal.

I mean, I don’t think. I’m not scared of it. I just think that it’s like, you know, something’s telling Us something, you know? Right. Yeah. And it’s good. Like, I just, like, made a new chicken coop. Like, I threw out the old one, made a new one. Like, I think everything right now is amazing. You know what I’m saying? Right. Like, this whole world. This whole world is going through a cleansing and an uplifting. Ah, yes. Thing, you know, I’m sorry about your breakup. Super sucks. I did one too. I had one too. You know, it was like the.

The stars aligned and they were like, you know, when someone’s sucking your life out of you, you gotta let them go. I mean, if there’s no vibe or you stop clicking, then. Yeah. I mean, when they’re just bringing you down, bringing it down, let them go. Well, I like what you were saying about how the world going through a cleansing. And that actually helps me and inspires me to try to focus on the solution instead of the problem and to. Without a doubt, to look at all. Yeah. You know, the good things that are going well for us in our.

All of the great things, man. I mean, it’s so good. All right, love you, Jay. All right, thanks for calling. I’ll talk to you later. Bye. Bye. Bye. Well, she was very sweet. Right? You guys are cracking me up in the chat. All right, I turn on the. Excuse me. I turn on the phone lines again. Let’s do. We’ll do two more callers. How about that? We’ll do two more and then we’ll wrap things up for today. If this episode wasn’t your cup of tea, I apologize. I get it. It’s not what I normally do. If you’re somebody that’s on my patreon.

The new credits are coming out day after tomorrow, so if you want to jump into the credits, join the Patreon. If you just want to donate and help me out with my camping trip or whatever, you can. I’m not asking, but if. If you’re one of those people that wants to. Especially since I lost 300 that I gave back to that one. Don’t. Donation. That would help out. But you don’t have to. Man B. To accept. To send a voicemail, press. Aloha. What’s up? This is J. Dreamers. Who’s this? Hey, it’s flat man B, bro. Hey, nice to meet you.

Did you say flat? Flat man. Yeah. Flat man B. Oh, flat man. Right on. Nice to meet you. Flat man. Flat man. Yeah. Nice to meet you. Yeah, man. I came across you through the grapevine, through Dave. Wife and I. I don’t like. I don’t like, agree with, like, everything that you, like, get from, from. I, I, I really like, I just like to, like, listen to you while I’m working and then like, I’ll be like, yeah, there’s some of that stuff I agree with and some of it I don’t. But like, I don’t got nothing against you.

You know what I’m saying? Like, you know, we’re all gonna have like, you know, it’s, it’s kind of like Dave, like, Dave, I consider him part of the truth team, but, like, I don’t agree with everything he says. Right. I think it’s healthy. Yeah, I think it’s healthy that we, like, are like, ah, you know, like about the gods stuff. Crackly right now. If you have me on speaker, can you come closer or something? Yeah, hold on. Is that better? Oh, yeah, it’s. Oh my God, it’s way better. Thank you. Yeah, yeah. But no, yeah, like, I think it’s just because, like, I’m a hardcore Christian.

So, like, with the God stuff, it’s like kind of. I get that. I don’t take no offense. Yeah, I don’t take no offense that you don’t like. Or that anybody else, you know, even Dave isn’t the Christian. But I still like his stuff and all that. But I don’t even know why I said that. No, it’s good. He just said that. I like your information, but yeah, it’s, it’s, yeah, balanced. You know, if I was the type of person that came out and just insisted I was right and everyone else was wrong, I would be a cult leader.

Yeah. I wouldn’t deserve any, you know, subscribers or whatever. Forget that. That’s hilarious. Yeah. But just really quick, the, the thing with the chicks, bro, like, I don’t know what it is, bro, but just based on the things that I heard you saying, like, and I have, like, sort of similar situations or whatever, I think it’s like, certain people, bro, like us that are like, destined for, like, to seek the Creator and be like, holy and, and like, seek truth. Like, yeah, we’re gonna, we’re gonna obviously want a mate, right? But the problem is like, the evil one or the evil side and the, and the evil spirits and stuff like that, like, they’re going to, like, it’s unfortunate, bro, but, like, if the woman isn’t very strong and they’re like, easily manipulated by these spirits, bro, then obviously they’re gonna hop onto them to.

With us. Because, like, that’s like, basically what I’m saying, like, one of our few weaknesses as dudes is going to be chicks, obviously, right? Mine is. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. Yeah. So it’s like this open. It’s this crack, door, open window in our life where, like, they’re the. The evils allowed to fuck with us, basically. Like, if we didn’t have. If we didn’t, like, seek companionship or loneliness and stuff, that would. We would be like a fortress. Right, right. But because there’s that one little area, it just like we, like, screw ourselves. You know what I mean? Idea speaking to my heart.

Probably not what you wanted to hear. It hits home. It does. It reminds me of a Bible verse, actually, where it says, if you’re not. If you’re not married, don’t seek a wife. Or something along those lines. I think it was Paul in the New Testament. I can’t remember. And then. Yeah, well, there’s another one of Paul where it’s like, you know, women are so beautiful if you’re lusting after them. It’s like get with a. Get. Get a companion so that way you don’t fall into sin. Right. But it’s like, well, I can’t do that one because that’s the problem.

Right, right. It’s tough. It’s. Anyways, brother, I just wanted to give you a pat on the back and tell you, like, dude, I’ve been there. I’m like. I think I’m. I lost count. I think I’m 12 years celibate now. All right. On high five. Yeah. Yeah. I got two kids and the mother is like, kind of like what you’re dealing with, where it’s, like, really unnecessarily difficult. Yeah. I’m basically, like, mentally abused and talked too harshly just in order to have a relationship with them. Because it’s like, if I’m not willing to deal with that, then I can’t.

It really sucks, bro. But anyways, yeah, no, I’m sorry for you and me, but I just want to give you a pat on the back. Say, love you. Thanks for the info. You know, just keep on pushing, brother. You’re very welcome. It’s nice to meet you. Yeah. God bless, bro. God bless you. Bye. Peace. Well, I like that guy. I don’t know what you guys think, but I thought that was a really good color. And I like that he’s like, I don’t always agree with you. That’s. That’s totally fine. I’m hoping that that’s how everyone feels.

You know what I mean? You don’t have to always agree with Me, you know, if. If you’re watching, obviously vibe with something, you know or don’t. I don’t know. Yeah, okay, so we’ll do one more. We’ll do one more telephone call if you guys want to. Sorry I haven’t been in the chat, but I’m multitasking when I’m talking to people, so. He was super sweet. Bodhi Gaia. Bodhi Gaia says he was super sweet. I totally agree. And he was just. He was just honest. Just spoke from the heart. He spoke to my heart. So thank you.

All right, last caller. Here we go. Call from. Oh, I don’t know. They didn’t say, press one. Oh, they hung up. Okay, I don’t know. We’ll do one more. We’ll do one more. Phone lines are open. We’ll do one last call. Whoever would like to call in and say hello. Nancy Ross says you’re too nice. Save your precious energy. Thank you. That was kind. All right, let’s see what we got. Call from. To accept, press 1. Aloha, this is J Dreamers. Who’s this? Oh, they just hung up. I don’t know. I might have to block that number if.

If it calls and hangs up again. All right, we got one more. One more. Here we go. Call from Black Raven Meditation to accept Black Raven Meditation. Aloha, this is J Dreamers. Is this Black Raven Meditation? It is. Well, hello. Hi. How’s it going? I go by something else. Whatever you want. The air? Yeah, you’re on the air. Yeah, I don’t have a team or anything. I just answer the phone. Yeah. What’s your name? You can call me Core. Core. Okay. Nice to meet you. Cora. Nice to meet you. So I’m kind of a lurker on your channel every once in a while, and I just happen to be watching today and what you were talking about and listening through the.

Watching through the chat, I just. I couldn’t help but be struck by something from this morning, and I just kind of wanted to get your feedback on it. I think, like, everybody right now, we’re. I think everyone kind of notices where your caller earlier said we’re going. Everyone’s kind of going through that cleansing thing, and we’re starting to really see, like, the ways that we contribute, right. To, like, our own stuff, you know? And this morning I woke up and I. I realized that, you know, my expectations have. They’re a security mechanism for me. Right. They’re a defense mechanism for me.

Because when I can set up these expectations for other people’s behaviors in these other real of my life and they don’t necessarily stand up to that expectation that gives me this place where I can say, oh, now I can guard myself from you right now. I’m not safe with you somehow in this situation. And I’m not saying that’s everyone’s, I’m not saying that’s everyone’s situation, but it was my kind of, it was my epiphany this morning and I, you know, like I said, after kind of watching everything today on your cast, I would like to, you know, just kind of ask like, does that resonate with you or in what ways do you know, you kind of find yourself creating those self soothing or, you know, security mechanisms to get through and keep it popping and keep it positive? It does.

I think that I personally have, you know, obviously like a lot of security measures in my life and I’ve been through my ups and downs since childhood and you know, I’m just, like I said earlier, I’m kind of winging it. Like personally I’ve never really had a father figure to look up to or a role model or anything. So everything I do is really me blazing this trail and trying my best to figure it out. And one of the things that I try to do is just like I talk about running a self diagnostic and try not to jump to conclusions and trying to be open and balanced, but also admitting I make mistakes, I mess up, you know what I mean? And the key thing is learning.

I mean, for me, I think that the key thing is learning from those mistakes to break those patterns and those loops that I get caught in personally, you know, and looking for opportunities, you know. That’s a good answer. Thank you for sharing that. And one more question, if it’s okay. Sure. You had stated that, you know, you kind of see yourself as a more affluent man. And I think a lot of men are kind of, they’re going through that themselves. They’re kind of coming to the more feminine nature of themselves and bringing that into themselves. And you know, we’re kind of seeing people, especially male, struggling with that right now.

For you as a male, what do you, what, what’s one of the things that you feel is like the, the biggest struggle you see in your community with men trying to adapt to this balanced energy that everyone’s trying to pull us all to? That’s a good question. I would say the biggest thing that I’ve noticed in our community as far as, you know, like how, how these energies affect males and the changes that are happening in our world and how they affect us as guys is the expectations and the new norms that are being established by what seems like the entire world to me.

And it makes everyone way more sensitive under this guise of being open. Like everyone’s always walking on eggshells and everyone’s making sure of everyone else and stuff. And it can create a sense of paranoia, especially in a true seeking community or atmosphere or conspiracy atmosphere or whatever. I’ve seen a lot of people jump off the deep end and just become completely paranoid, you know, without grounding themselves. So like, if, if it was me and I just wanted to, I. I could take all of my terrible experiences in life and I could just be paranoid and just, you know, never date anyone ever again and just give up and, you know, have some solid view in my mind about all women in the world or, you know, things like that.

And I feel like there’s that temptation in the truth seeking community, not that one specifically, but just there’s just the temptation to have to live in a state of paranoia, whether, whether it be about the government’s lying to me or, you know, hidden history or the news or politics or whatever. Like, you know, like people are very sensitive and touchy feely and it can push other people to standing their ground even firmer. And if they stand their ground to such an extent and they’re standing that firm, they can stop growing. They can stay in one place and be stagnant, you know, being flexible and cooperative.

Yeah, wonderful. Well, thank you so much for talking with me. I really enjoy your work and you know, I applied your bravery to just get it out there and do it. That’s like, as you already know, the hardest part. So. Yeah, thank you for having me on today. I appreciate you, man. You’re very welcome. It’s nice to meet you. You too. Bye bye. Bye bye. Okay, that was it. Those were really good callers. I want to say thank you to all you guys. Thank you so much just for, just for watching. That’s it. Just for being here.

And thank you to everyone who’s in this community. Some people are, some people are not. I see a lot of really good conversations that are happening in the chat right now. I’m excited to go back and actually read the chat once it’s uploaded. And I just want to say thanks. You know, I’m a human being. I’m not a YouTube channel. I have a YouTube channel, but I’m Jay. I’m. I’m me. I’m not perfect. I mess up. You know, I got a I got a blood stain on my cheek right now. I sneeze and cough and burp and you know, all the, all the human things that you guys do and I have feelings, you know.

So this is, this has been one of those more personal presentations. You guys can you get, you get to know me and hopefully my experience in life maybe help somebody else out, you know, maybe just at least to just talk about these types of things. But with that being said, I, I feel a little bit better. I’m still sad. I’m still gonna go sulk immediately after this live stream. I’m still gonna go sulk and try to distract myself and clean the house or something so I don’t think about it. But thank you guys for being there for me.

I really appreciate it. And maybe we’ll do more call in shows in the future. They’re going pretty good. They’re going pretty well and I’ve had a lot of feedback. People are saying that they really like listening to the call in and maybe I can do more and just get right to the point. Open up the phone lines right away or something. That’s something I’ll think about. I will start on the new credits again. If you want to join the credits and you want to support me and have your name show up at the end of the show like I’m about to play right now, go to patreon.com there’s also a chat over there.

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All right, cool. Thanks for watching. I appreciate this time with you guys. It’s. It’s special to me each and every time. And I’m glad that you were here. Until next time, I’m J. Dreamers saying good vibes and goodbye Sam. But something’s forcing me to stay it be easier on me if I turn away to flee Time to wake up Time to wake up Find so many ways to escape But I can’t sit I’m to wake up Time to wake up I’ll try so hard to fade away but something’s forcing me to stay It’d be easier for me if I turn away to flee oh, but there’s something holding on in the way of being long gone there’s so many ways to escape But I guess it’s time to wake up Time to wake up Far too many ways to escape But I guess Time to wake up Time to wake up Time to wake up Time to wake up, baby Time to wake up Time to wake up Time to wake up Time to wake up, baby Time to wake up Time to wake up Sam.
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