They Rejected You When You Were Broken.. Now Theyre Desperate to Reconnect! (TOO LATE)

God has a perfect partner for you, but you need to love and value yourself first. This partner will be like David, a man who loves God and treats you with respect. However, you must break the cycle of settling for less and tolerating disrespect. Only then, when you see yourself as worthy, will you be ready for this divine relationship.

Here’s what I’m hearing so clearly. Some of you think you’re waiting on God to send you your kingdom spouse, but in truth, heaven is waiting on you. Your husband, the one God has truly chosen for you, he’s already in position. He’s already praying. But right now God is preparing you to be ready for that kind of love. I was given a very specific prophetic dream, and while the vision was about one woman, this message carries a word for many. In the dream, I saw a woman in a toxic relationship. She looked tired, worn down, like she had nothing left to fight with.

She said to the man, I don’t care if you cheat on me. I just don’t like when you lie to my face about it. And as she spoke those words, I heard the Holy Spirit say, I want you to love yourself. In that moment, it became clear and she wasn’t just in a bad relationship. She was in a cycle. A cycle where self-worth had been stripped, where love had been confused with tolerance, where pain had become familiar. This man wasn’t her kingdom partner. He was a counterfeit. Someone she had settled for out of fear, out of habit, out of the wound of believing she wasn’t worth more.

As I began to wake from the dream, I saw one name written in bold white letters, David. The man in the dream was nothing like David, but the Lord was using that name to point to something deeper. David, the man after God’s own heart. David, the warrior, the king, the anointed protector, the one who honored covenant, who sought God first, who carried divine responsibility with humility and power. That is the kind of man God has for you, not a placeholder, not someone who drains you and breaks you down, but someone who covers you, someone who has fought battles, who is seasoned in faith and who is ready to lead with love and integrity.

But for you to receive a David, God needs you to see yourself the way he sees you worthy of sacred love. So no, you’re not just waiting on him. He’s waiting on you to remember who you are and to stop settling for less than what heaven ordained. Here’s what I’m hearing for someone. And if it hits your spirit, receive it. God’s daughters were never meant to settle for anything less than a man who carries the heart of David, a protector, a provider, a man after God’s own heart. Yes, David made mistakes, but we’re talking about his anointing, his reverence for God, his divine responsibility, and his protective covering.

That’s the kind of partner God is preparing for you. But here’s the truth. Some of you aren’t ready yet. And it’s not because you’re not good enough. It’s because there’s still a cycle that needs to be broken, a cycle of low self worth of tolerating less than what you truly deserve. And God is not going to place you in a covenant connection with a man of honor until you start honoring yourself. In a prophetic dream, I saw a woman who had become so numb to disrespect that she actually said, I don’t care if you cheat on me, just don’t lie to my face.

Her heart was so worn down, so desensitized that betrayal no longer shocked her. And as I watched this unfold, I heard God speak, I need you to love yourself, not I want you to, but I need you to. This is a requirement. Not a suggestion. This word doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships. This is about every area where you’ve allowed disrespect, tolerated less, or remained quiet in the presence of dishonor. God is not being harsh. He’s being protective. He’s waiting until your inner posture matches the woman he’s calling you to be. Look at Esther.

She didn’t chase status. She didn’t beg for love. She was dignified. She was prepared. She had boundaries. And because of that, she was elevated to royalty, not because of how she looked, but because of how she carried herself. If you want to David, you need to embody the grace and worth of an Esther. So before God connects you with a man who’s after his heart, he’s asking you to get back to yours. Love yourself, respect yourself, see your value, and the rest will follow. You know what God is saying right now? I am preparing you to be an Esther, and that preparation doesn’t come with comfort.

It comes with clarity. It comes with conviction. Because to truly carry the Esther mantle, you cannot continue letting people walk all over you, devalue you, and then convince yourself it’s love. That’s not humility. That’s self-abandonment. You cannot settle for less and still expect the fullness of your calling. Some of you have been entertaining people God never approved, people who do not honor your worth, people who mock your boundaries. And I’m not just talking about romantic relationships. I’m talking about family members, longtime friends, co-workers, even strangers who have had access to your spirit when they didn’t deserve it.

You’ve tolerated mistreatment in the name of peace, but it’s cost you your own. And heaven is saying no more. This is not about pride. This is not about arrogance. This is about recognizing the oil you carry, the anointing that rests on you. You are not being prepped for a common life. You are being positioned for kingdom work. And that requires a new level of self-love. God said, I need you to love yourself. Not I hope you will, not it would be nice if you did. No, it’s a requirement. Because if you don’t see the value in who you are, you’ll keep handing yourself to people who only want to use, deplete or ignore it.

Loving yourself isn’t being boastful. It’s not pride. It’s alignment. It’s understanding that what God placed in you is sacred. Esther didn’t chase. She didn’t beg. She didn’t entertain dishonor. She stood in her grace and favor followed. So this is your reminder. God is not just building your future. He’s building you. And if he’s asking you to release relationships, habits, or environments that make you shrink, it’s because he’s making room for something greater. Something royal. Something lasting. Don’t hold on to what dishonors you. God is calling you to rise, and Esther never settled. Neither should you.

Here’s what I’m hearing loud and clear. God isn’t holding love back from you. He’s holding space for you to heal. You may have walked away from the toxic relationship. You may be celibate now, patiently waiting on God to send the right person. But here’s the truth. Just because you left the relationship doesn’t mean the pattern left you. A lot of you think you’re healed simply because no one is actively mistreating you. But absence doesn’t equal healing. Some of those old traits, tolerating disrespect, overextending for people who drain you, allowing subtle emotional neglect, are still hiding within you.

And they haven’t gone anywhere. They’re just dormant because they haven’t been triggered. God is saying, I need you to love yourself. That’s not a gentle suggestion. That’s an instruction. Because self-love is not about being loud or prideful. It’s about knowing your value and refusing to compromise it. When you love yourself, you don’t allow people, whether it’s a partner, a family member, or a so-called friend, to dishonor your spirit and still call it connection. Some of you are unknowingly carrying these patterns into your quiet season. You’ve removed the toxic relationship, yes. But now look at how others around you, co-workers, friends, even family, are still getting away with boundary-crossing behavior.

That’s how the cycle lives on. And that’s how healing gets delayed. You may not be dating. You may not be expressing these old wounds romantically. But watch how you shrink in conversations. Watch how you still seek approval. Watch how you tolerate inconsistency. These are the signs that the wound is still speaking, even in silence. And this is why God hasn’t released your person yet. Not because he’s punishing you, but because he’s protecting you. And the one he has for you. Your future partner carries too much honor, too much purpose, to enter a bond built on broken patterns.

So God is using this space, this waiting season, to highlight what still needs to be released. You’re not just waiting on a relationship. You’re being called to rise, to break the cycle for good. And it starts with how you love yourself now. [tr:trw].